In Rememberance

My Grandma

On August 30, 2008 Pearl "Dixie" Maygren at 9:15 pm passed away.

The First of Many

Yesterday our little tyke took his first step. He has been able to stand up for a long time if he holds on to something. Over the last week he has stood more and more on his own. Landon LOVES to put EVERYTHING in his mouth. And he picked up the shoulder strap to a computer bag that was on the floor and with it partially in his mouth he moved forward and then sat down. Of course I went nuts. Mike missed it as his knee was in the way. But we still clapped and cheered for him like he won a gold in the Olympics. He looked excited to knowing that he must have done something good. Soon he will be off and running.

Pretty Darn Funny

I love to laugh! While Mike was "working" he found this great blog http://overheardintheward.blogspot.com and he has read them to me for most of the day and they are pretty darn funny. Check out and see if you get a chuckle or two. Remind me not to drink water when he is reading this blog we almost had a serious water/computer issue.

Long Overdue

Oh boy! Is this blog entry long overdue. A lot of things have happened since either one of us have written. You can skim the craziness we don't expect you will read all of the boringness really.

Car Troubles: Grandma's Buick has done us well. Never any problems. That was until now. They are not big problems but little ones that keep sneaking up on us. On Saturday the 2 we went to Greenfield Village. The Spirit prompted us to take the side roads home and we are sure glad we did. A little more than half way home we had a flat tire. Our friend Jayne, her son Josh, and his friend and ours Brandon came and helped us. Mike was able to get the spare on and got us home. Phewf! On Monday the 4 Mike took the car to Costco and they were able to repair our problem and did not charge us. Yeah!!!! Then he took the car to Jiffy Lube. And that is all I will say about that. Wednesday I had to go meet with the Stake President as they finally made my FSA Co-Chair job a calling and he set me apart. I am glad to have that accomplished. On the way home the car started overheating and the brakes were making an awful noise. Mike got home from being at the temple with the Branch a while later and notice there was no coolant in the car. Duh Jiffy Lube! So he and a member of the branch fixed that. Mike then on Thursday took the car in to a repair shop and they fixed the brakes that day. Went to Indiana and all was well. I then drove to Costco on Tuesday to get gas and do some errands and the car wouldn't start at the gas station. Everyone helped out so much by honking at me, thanks! A nice man came over after the man at Costco pushed the car to the side. He jumped the car for me and I drove home the long way. No luck when I tried to start the car later that day it was still dead. Mike took it in to be fixed on Thursday, changed the battery and now all is well.

Indiana: Hallie taught her first class at the Regional FSA Conference in Indianapolis. She really enjoyed teaching and her class was full. The weather was perfect in Indiana and the drive was fun. We love going to places we have never been too before. On the way home we stopped by a small town called Chelsea, MI and bought Landon a bear with a T-Shirt that we made that said, "Adoption It's About Love" in red, yellow, and blue. He looks so cute with his bear. While in Indiana he went in a swing for the first time. He wasn't so keen going one direction but loved the other direction. He is so funny.

Swimming: Today Landon wore his swimsuit for the first time! Mike and I took him into a little kids pool at a local park. It was a little chilly outside but when he could be in the water crawling around he loved it. In all honesty we need to put him in more, and we hope to do that before the pools close for the season.

Olympics: The Olympics are addicting to me. I love watching almost anything that the U.S. is competing in. Having a DVR is probably the most addicting part. We had so many hours recorded we had to just start deleting things without watching them. I love our National Anthem and I wish more of our atheletes knew the words and would sing along.

Adventures: Our new favorite place to go to is The Henry Ford Museum and Greenfield Village. Since buying our passes just over a month ago we have been at least 4 times. It is beautiful and fun. The last time we went was this past Monday. The second Monday of every month is called Macy's 2nd Mondays and this month it was at Greenfield Village. I am linking you to my friend Michelle's blog as she captured our trip there perfectly. I am actually jealous of her blog it is so dang cute and so is her family. So check out her entry regarding our trip http://themichiganders.blogspot.com/2008/08/greenfield-village.html and see how dang cute Landon and Mike are while you are there. Landon loves to ride on Mike's shoulders and I love watching him eat Mike's hair. Landon goes everywhere with us and is such a great sport. We are so very blessed to have him in our lives. We look forward to all of our future adventures with him.

Have a great week whoever reads this blog and hopefully we can post pictures soon!

A Pleasant Sunday

Today was Fast Sunday at church. I did bare my testimony and I am glad I did. Landon let me sit through all of Sacrament today. That was a miracle. I also think it was because were sitting by our friend Courtney who is a social worker for LDS Family Services and she did all of our work with Landon during our adoption. She saw him when he was 2 weeks old and now he is nine months. Courtney held him and played with him and it made his squirming a lot easier to handle. It also helped that Auntie Jayne wanted him too, oh and the kids behind us wanted to play with him. I am extremely blessed that Landon will go to just about anybody and not throw a fit. My how his good temperament makes my life a whole lot easier.
When I walked into church today there were three sisters who got right up and gave me hugs and welcomed me. Did they have to? No, but they did it because they have LOVE that overflows to everyone. And sometimes a person just needs to receive it and I thank them for the hugs and the beautiful sentiments that they pass on when they see me.

I am sentimental because I think of where we were at a year ago and how it has been a hard year, but having Landon makes everything so much better. In the back of my mind I was fine with never having kids. Yet, one day sitting in the office of my therapist it came to me that it was time to start a family and so we decided to adopt and you know I wish we could do it sooner. Having Landon bring me so much joy that I had never even known or witnessed before. He is amazing and it is even more fun to watch Mike play with him and even just stare at Landon as he is doing things that completely astound us.

Before the 7th Inning Stretch

On Friday we went to the Tigers game, our first since living in Detroit. Our real estate agent gave the tickets to us. Thanks, Gary! We were brave and decided to take Landon with us since Hallie had bought him an outfit and all back in May. We arrived to our seats right as everyone was taking the field, and we were ready to watch the game. Landon did pretty well for having so much stimulation. For at least an inning Hallie walked the inside of the stadium with him in his stroller, and he seemed to like that. The stadium is beautiful! They have a ferris wheel and a carousel inside. The Tigers were winning when we left, but as I checked this morning they gave up two runs in the end and they lost. Oh well. Maybe they will do better tonight. They play the White Sox again. Below are the photos we took of the park and our kid.

A Moment That Changed Forever

Well our moment was more like an hour, but it felt like a moment.

One year ago today at about 3:15 pm Utah time we met Natalie for the first time. On that day she gave us several sonogram pictures and I couldn't believe that she would be so generous after just barely meeting us but she was. How blessed we are to have her, Ambrosia, Jared, and most importantly Landon in our lives.

I mailed her nearly 100 photos and a three page letter. I hope she enjoys receiving them as we enjoy thoroughly taking photos of our little Albert Einstein.

On Mormon blogs and podcasts

I wish I knew better how to find more thoughtful, challenging, and spiritually inspiring LDS-oriented blogs and podcasts out there. I do not mean to complain by making this statement. What I mean to say is that either I haven’t looked hard enough, or I don’t know where to look. On my iPod yesterday, I heard two great talks, one given by Dr. Robert F. Bohn at the 1991 Sunstone Symposium titled, “Cultural vs. Gospel Doctrine and the ‘Unsaid Sermon Phenomenon’,” and another given by Ronald Brough at the December 11, 2007, BYU Devotional titled, “Balance in Life.”

I caught Bro. Bohn’s talk from the Mormon Matters podcast. As noted by Clay Whipkey on the page referring to the talk, “The talk, and the response by Toby Pingree, explores a serious problem in the practical everyday lives of Latter-day Saints” of interpreting more out of spoken sermons than what they genuinely teach about the gospel of Jesus Christ. Two items caught my attention:

First, I appreciated the way he shared and contrasted spoken sermons and the possible reinterpretations of those spoken words we may sometimes inflict upon ourselves. For instance: The spoken, “We feel richly blessed that the Lord has trusted us to bear and raise several of His spirit children” may get reinterpreted culturally from the hearer who has no children: “We cannot bear our own children—The Lord must not trust us.” The core topic (e.g., meriting the Lord’s trust) may get lost in the cultural value we as Latter-day Saints espouse (e.g., raising a righteous posterity) and may blind us to the actual gospel principle being taught.

Second, Bro. Bohn listed of 9 steps to help neutralize the perpetuation of false cultural notions of actual gospel teachings (I copied and pasted them from Clay’s page. The original post with comments is here):

1. Understand how we develop false cultural doctrines. (In the speaker’s own words: Identify Unsaid Sermons as such.)
2. Replace these false notions with the correct gospel doctrine which brings hope and happiness, not despair and misery. Correcting our thinking helps us overcome cultural guilt much like correcting our behavior helps us overcome gospel guilt in the repentance process.
3. Be careful not to make generalizations about the specific experiences of others. Because something happens a certain way to one church member does not mean that all other members must experience life exactly the same way.
4. Realize that sometimes people say things they genuinely feel but may not be gospel doctrine. Often people justify their own circumstances and say things that make them feel good based upon what happened to them.
5. Remind ourselves that what we hear is meant to edify us. It is not necessarily a representative sample of what most Saints are experiencing in their lives each day.
6. Stop trying to live our life exactly like others’. Instead, we should develop our own lifestyle which is consistent with the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ. While gospel principles are the same for all of us, how we apply those principles in our lives sometimes varies.
7. View our life from an eternal perspective of justice, which is not limited to our mortal existence.
8. Assume responsibility for our feelings and commitment to the gospel of Jesus Christ instead of reacting to other members’ well-meaning, false notions and cultural doctrines.
9. Focus upon changing ourselves so that we reflect the gospel in our words and deeds, rather than becoming cynical about the shortcomings of others. In reality, we can only change ourselves, not others. The best we could do is influence others.

Bonus (added by Toby Pingree):

• Don’t take offense where none is intended.
• Don’t be thin-skinned.

The audio of the talk is available here. Unfortunately, I have not found a transcript.

Bro. Brough’s talk is available here in various formats. He drew eight principles from a General Conference talk offered by Elder M. Russell Ballard (“Keeping Life’s Demands in Balance,” Ensign, May 1987, pp. 13-16):

1. Think about your life and set your priorities.
2. Set short-term goals that you can reach.
3. Budget wisely and prepare for financial challenges.
4. Stay close to your spouse, children, family, and friends.
5. Study the scriptures.
6. Find time for sufficient rest, relaxation, and exercise.
7. Hold weekly family home evenings.
8. Pray as individuals and as families.

As with Bro. Bohn’s talk, I appreciated Bro. Brough’s sincere manner and gentle humor as he used examples from his own life to illustrate his interpretation of the above suggestions. In themselves both sets of ideas from both talks seem like nothing more than common sense, but as I listened to the talks as I drove to and from my afternoon appointment yesterday, I felt grateful to be reminded that I needed to use that common sense to sort out some current concerns I have had. To me, this is the cardinal value of listening to uplifting and inspiring messages: they remind me of what I need to do, and they encourage me to believe I can do it well.

A quotation from Nietzsche was featured in the Bohn talk: “This is my way; where is yours?”—thus I answered those who asked me ‘the way.’ For the way—that does not exist” (Nietzsche, Thus Spoke Zarathustra, Pt. III, On the Spirit of Gravity, 2). I tried to reconcile that idea with the verse of scripture that immediately popped into my head, John 14:6: “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” My interpretation: We each have our own way of discovering and following Christ (or finding self-fulfillment, or whatever). While certain overarching principles may exist, there really is no set pathway to walk or specific pattern of following the gospel to get to heaven. Just as each person is an individual, each individual must learn from the unique set of experiences and circumstances that form the fabric of his or her life and build meaning from it. I make a mistake when I too literally try to emulate others’ examples of happiness and fulfillment while forgetting to learn from the distinctive opportunities for learning and growth offered by my own circumstances, and I felt grateful that a couple of podcasts could bring me back in check.

Clint Eastwood and A Cute Kid

Grand Torino is the name of the movie.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1205489/

I did not take my camera, but Landon and I have seen Clint Eastwood twice in the last week. Last Thursday he was filming a movie at the end of our block, so we went to watch. Today was the best. On our way home traffic was stopped by police while Clint's truck was pulled by a truck as they were filming a scene. Even though Landon was pitching a bit of a fit in the back seat, I was star struck. Who knew something so exciting could happen in our little slice of Michigan?!

I can't get over the picture below. My dad took it while he was here. This really captures Landon. Most often when he wakes up from a nap you will find him jumping and laughing in his crib. It is such a pleasure to go get him, throw him in the air, and watch him laugh. Landon's hair has grown like a wildfire, and we love the curls. We won't be cutting it just yet. This weekend we are going to our first Detroit Tigers game, and Landon will be all decked out in his Tiger outfit. We will write all about when we get back.

A Simple Two Hours

Saturday was hot, muggy, and wet here in Southeast Michigan.
We spent a majority of the day at our old church building giving stuff to members who wanted items that otherwise would be going to a donations agency. Tables, chairs, hymn books, things from the kitchen, and so on. Glad it is all over. Mike has to go one more time, but Landon and I are done!
I took a time out to run to Costco, and while there Julie, a friend from the branch, called and said most of her family would be away that evening. Could she watch Landon while the two of us went to the movies? I couldn't say no to a great offer like that! So at 6:30 we dropped Landon off and went to Patterson Park where we have a movie theatre (gotta love that perk!) and saw WALL-E. It was a very cute movie, and boy, how time flies. When we got out of the movie two hours had gone by since we dropped Landon off. This was our first solo date since bringing Landon into our family, and I have to admit it was nice to be able to go out and hold hands at the movie and have Mike open my door again. Sometimes with a child we get caught up in him and forget about ourselves. Julie and Reagan had lots of fun with Landon, and he never knew we were gone. Thanks, Julie, for letting us be a couple for the evening. It was great!

Grandpa and Grandma Visit

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On July 2, Hallie's parents came to visit for a week. It was very exciting to have them come to Michigan. They hadn't seen Landon since the beginning of January, and Landon has grown and changed a lot since then.

On Wednesday we rented a minivan and picked them up from the airport in the late afternoon. We went to a small diner in Grosse Pointe Woods for dinner and then home where Mommy and her friend Carmen made a big banner welcoming their arrival.

Thursday morning we got up bright and early and finished packing and then headed out of town with everyone. We were on our way to Kirtland, Ohio. The rain followed us all the way there, but it did not get our spirits down. It was fun to tour around Kirtland in the rain ("whatnot" is our new favorite word), and Landon was a great sport. Our first night we spent in Buffalo, NY, and had yummy food at Gabriel's Gate.

Friday we were off to Palmyra, NY. It was a beautiful day, and we could not ask for better weather (70s in July? Wow!). When we got to Palmyra, people were practicing for the Hill Cumorah Pagent. We hiked to the top and saw the most lovely view. Afterward we picked up a really big sandwich from the IGA and took it to eat at the Sacred Grove picnic tables. Took the tour the missionaries offered and walked the Sacred Grove. It was moving for me to tell Landon about Joseph Smith that day, loved it! Later on we drove to the Whitmer Farm and had a nice time there as well. Friday evening we spent the night in Rochester, NY, and could see fireworks from the hotel windows.

Saturday brought more excitement when we headed off to Niagara Falls. Little glitch at the border due to no birth certificate for Landon, but we got through. Dropped our stuff off at the hotel and started walking. The falls are beautiful, and we had a lot of fun there. Landon did great on the Maid of the Mist boat ride. He was a great trooper on all of this. We were upgraded at the hotel and had a room with a view of the falls. It was awesome, and even though I didn't do all that you can at the falls, I loved just being there and having time to relax.

Sunday we ate breakfast at the hotel and were able to look out over the falls while eating, and it was amazing. Packed up our stuff and got in the car to head toward home. But while in Canada Hallie can't resist buying Landon something from Roots, and Grandpa got a hoodie, too. Yay, Grandpa! A stop at Costco in Windsor and Tim Hortons made our trip complete.

Monday Mike toured us around Detroit with my cousin Tyson and his wife Springer. We had a picnic and had a lot of fun. For dinner we were going to go to the lake and BBQ, but like most of our summer has been, a big thunderstorm broke out and we had Mike BBQ from the backyard in the rain. He was a good sport. Grandpa made s'mores in tinfoil on the BBQ, and they were good and messy. What a lot of good memories!

Tuesday we hung around Grosse Pointe and just relaxed and got some things done around the house.

Wednesday found us at The Henry Ford Museum and Greenfield Village in Dearborn, MI. If you ever come to Michigan you HAVE TO go to this museum. Just awesome and we didn't get to see most of it. Mike and I bought a pass, and we now have gone twice in a week. We hope to keep going and to get all that we can out of it. Dropped Mike off at his volunteer work, ran by the temple, and took the grandparents to the Somerset Collection. It is a very nice mall that covers two sides of the street.

Thursday it was time to take Grandma and Grandpa home. Hallie was very sad to see them leave. It was so much fun to see Landon play and smile at his Grandma and Grandpa.

Landon is well tempered and is crawling like crazy these days. He loves to pull himself up onto anything he can and put anything in his mouth. With the entrance of his fourth tooth there is no stopping him.

Spiritual Girls Camp

On Friday night the three of us and President Lewis from the Palmer Park Branch drove to visit the girls at Girls Camp. It was a 2 1/2 hour drive and Landon was awake for the whole thing. The camp was in a beautiful area of Michigan. Hot and humid it was and Landon's curls just kept popping out. We experienced the flag lowering ceremony, dinner, a fashion show that Mike was in, and a really nice devotional with Carmen and Sofia. The girls learned a lot and seemed to really have felt the Spirit. It was a great opportunity for us to go and we are glad to went.

Carmen, Jayne, Mike, Sofia, and Landon
Mike dressed as if to go fishing.

Carmen, Landon, and Sofia. Landon loves them!

Landon and Sofia. He loved all of the attention the girls gave him.

Landon's curly hair.

Landon liked Sofia's lanyard.

He fell asleep as we drove into the parking lot. Just my luck.

How I got him to smile for the camera is beyond me but this is a keeper!

Look at those curls!

Once Called Bob's Big Boy

He must have loved Bob, the smiles were non stop.

For some reason I thought Big Boy had disappeared until we got to Michigan and Big Boy has reappeared. In Michigan they actually say it's a "Michigan Thing". So our "nephew" Josh told me how good their Patty Melts are and said I had to try them. So "Auntie" Jayne, Josh, Landon, and I went to Big Boy while Mike worked, hee hee hee. We had a ton of fun and Landon made a great big mess. But all who sat around him were understanding and loved chatting with him. That makes what can be a stressful event a lot of fun. I love hanging out with these two as it makes being loud be okay. Yeah!

Earlier in the day we took Mike to work at Wayne State. Today was the first day of the summer semester. Mike has been working so hard lately, I am very proud of him. We spent a little over an hour visiting all of the fun people in the education building. Landon had a great temperament while we were there and he always has the smiles for the ladies. The sweet ladies give him all the sugar a boy should ever receive. I have posted pictures from our fun day. As I am writing this it is 9pm and I can hear Landon on the baby monitor cracking himself up in his crib. What a character. As of today he has four teeth. Once one comes in they never stop.

Eight Months

This last Monday Landon turned eight months. I can't believe how fast time has flown. He is so much FUN! He has cut his third tooth and is now crawling and getting into everything! The picture above is Landon eating part of his Thomas the Train Duplo set that Grandma gave him. We put it together and less than 5 min later he has it torn to pieces and it is all in his mouth. He is taking after his dad and his love for the Legos. At least all of the ones we have in boxes in the basement will not go to waste. 7 days til Papa and Mama come to visit. YEAH!

Amazing Storms

The rain came from nowhere. This is what Noah must have felt like I am sure. Within minutes the water was moving down the alley like a river. Hail was at least the size of peas. There are some pictures of it below. I screemed like a three year old. It was so much fun with all of the lightning and thunder. Landon slept right through it. It had been beautiful weather earlier in the day. We walked to the local outdoor market and Landon pet a cute little Beagle. He doesn't seem to be afraid of the dogs. He doesn't even flinch when the Jack - n - the - Box goes off.

Fearless he is.

Not A Spare Moment, Filled With Tons Of Fun

Some how Wednesdays always seem to be so action packed in our house.

The second Wednesday of every month I have a meeting for Families Supporting Adoption that is 40 miles away. I can't seem to ever get out of the meeting at a reasonable time and that day was no different. No fault other than mine as I am a talker.

By the time I got home this last Wednesday Mike and the Jefferson Elders ( we have 4 sets of Elders ) were painting Landon's room. It was great to have three people painting his room. It was done in no time flat. I fed them Chicken Philly Cheesesteak Sandwiches and I will have to admit they were pretty darn tasty.

Shortly after they left I went and picked up Deondre who gave us an estimate on refinishing our floor in the kitchen.

While he was there Carmen came over to be tutored on Math by Pres. Owens. I then dropped Deondre off and returned home to have Jayne and Josh show up within the hour for more tutoring and for Pres. Owens to give the kids blessings before their ACT tests this last Saturday.

Jayne came back later to pick up the kids and we had a blast on the porch. One of the best parts of my house is the porch. If you come to visit you are welcome to join us on the porch. Hope to see you soon.

Elder Robbins painting. Landon was there to cheer the Elders on.

He was smiling just two seconds before I took this picture. He loved standing up watching what was going on in his room.

Elder Robbins and Elder Nielsen

Mike and Landon chillin on the porch. He loves watching the cars, buses, and police go down the street.

Josh definitely has no problem mugging for the camera.

Carmen, Landon, and Mike hanging out on the patriotic porch.

Our house from across the street. I love it!

Deondre and Josh.

Jayne and Josh, mother and son. Josh plays football for Ecorse High School. This last Saturday we put Landon in his size 15 shoes and his helmet and Landon loved it!

Landon and Poppy still chillin. It was a beautiful night and we have had several lately.

Landon found his fingers. Darn it!

One of his nicknames is Albert Einstein because of his crazy hair.

Yes, he is favoring his left thumb.

Landon is so crazy. We are so lucky to have a kid that is pretty darn mellow and loves the ladies! Today at church our friend Penelope had him for nearly two hours while I did Primary and Pres. Owens was busy with the Branch. We are so grateful to her and so many countless others who play with him and love him to bits. Most of the kids love him as well and he thinks it is so fun to smile and make faces at them during Sacrament. Like Mike has said, "Never A Dull Moment."